Surfofpink

SO there was this guy Dwane that I was once in love with when he was living here in Canada. Then his dad took over a company in California and they moved down there. I talked to him on February 10th and he told me he had a surprise for me but I wouldn't get it until Feb 12th. I waited and waited and never got anything and hadn't heard from him since.
I got a phonecall from his sister today. Dwane died in a car accident on Feb 11th on his way to the airport with his bags backed and a ticket to Toronto airport. His family had no idea where he was going cause he didn't tell anyone. I told his sister what had happened between him and I and she just cried. She said he talked about me everyday, how I was the girl he always wanted to marry and how he was so angry about moving away from the girl he loved. His family figures he must have been on his way to see me. They found pictures of us in his luggage, all our MSN history on disks, everything I gave him and his journals that he wrote about me in his room and want to know if I want it.
I seriously don't know what to do. I think having his stuff would make things worse. She said to let her know by the end of the week cause they are cleaning out his room. Should I take it and bear with the pain in spite of a collection of memories or just say for them to keep it cause I can't handle it?

rrspexpress

damn, so many sad stories on tcc...........

it all depends on how you felt about him. obviously he was crazy about you but did you feel the same way? it's harsh to say but if he was just a fling then forget it, but if he meant more to you than that having his stuff will probably make things easier in the long run. it's alot healthier to deal with it than to run away from it.

imported_Dawson

wow thats so sad but its so sweet that he was going to do that i would say to get the stuff from his family and cherish it. and keep it to remember all the good times you had together because regardless it would be hard either way and down the road your gonna be mad if you didnt get the stuff

imported_Team Rukus

if i was you i would take it.
i mean you did say you loved him and wanted to be with him..

i would take it just cuz i wouldnt want to think about it even a year down the road and regret not having read or seen all the stuff he did have collected. as long as there are pics, convo's etc of you two he is not dead and he will always be there with you whever you are down and want to read some stuff to yourself.

get it imo.

Surfofpink

I loved him. I truly did. Have my tickets to California in June. Told him to wait til I got down there... guess he couldn't wait. They waited a long time to call me cause his parents said I would be the hardest to talk to. Ends up they got his sister to call cause she didn't really know me other than what he said of me.... I would have given up everything and moved to California to marry him...in a heartbeat.

rrspexpress

get it. he went through alot of trouble to save the convo's and write the journals about you. the least you can do is have it and cherish it forever.

be strong...

Sabre

Best thing you can do, is get the journals and other info involving you if you can. I say this because 10-15-20 years down the road, you are always going to wonder what they said. You always take a little piece of every person you love with you and they never leave. Even if they screw you over and you hate them... a piece of you will still always love them.

Get the stuff and put it away untill you are ready to deal with it. You may not be ready now, but a piece of you will always want to know. Best to have it available instead of never knowing.

imported_gatherer

SurfofPink,

you seem to really be going through a bad time. First the falling down stairs and now this. I want you to know the TCC community is there for you. Sabre has some great advice I agree with what he's said there.

regards,

Jason

Cynikal.Mindset

damn babe, that sucks to the max...goddamn the stars just aint right for nuff people right now

you know I'm there for ya, anytime give me a ring if ya need to

R.I.P. Dwane

Gallagher

ouch, sorry to hear kathryn

Notorious

Sorry to hear about that. My condolences.

imported_kIeRaN

So sad to hear Kathryn if u need anything, im here for ya...

kwikb16a2

so many bad things happening here sorry to hear

imported_SIR_Injected

thats the saddest thing


R.I.P Dwane

Surfofpink

They are sending out his things as of this morning to me. There was also a small box with my name on it wrapped in his luggage. His sister said they are sending that too. Don't know what it is but I told her not to open it. I'll let you guys know as soon as I find out.

Thanks for the support

1Sic4Dr

sorry to hear the bad news
R.I.P Dwane

imported_JoonyaSI

wow .. sorry to hear that... TCC is goin thru some stuff right now .. hold your heads up guys

elistian

glad to hear you've decided to take the stuff... honestly its good to have... just put it away in a box if you have to like someone else said until your ready to look at it... at least you know you'll always have the stuff to look at if you want... are you flying down for his funeral or no?? i know you probably wish you could be there... my mom is the manager of a travel agency... maybe i can help you out... maybe even exchanging the tickets in you had to go there for a sooner date...

again sorry for your loss..

R.I.P Dwane

bbarbulo

iTrader: (2)

damn, that sucks. I can't imagine losing someone that close to me.

Sabre

She can't she has hurt herself and is unable to walk at this time. See her hospital thread here.

http://www.torontocivics.com/tccforu...0&pagenumber=1