Dwane...
23-Mar-2005, 03:28 PM
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Originally posted by 1Sic4Dr
l thought she was at home
she was realsed from the hospital
l thought she was at home
she was realsed from the hospital
23-Mar-2005, 11:18 PM
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I am very sorry for your loss and I know the empty feelings you are probally having. Im glad you took the stuff, its good for down the road to always keep apart of the past. Things will get better for you soon and know that all of tcc is here to help and support.
23-Mar-2005, 11:49 PM
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Originally posted by elistian
thats what i thought... i was just asking if she was planning on going down for it because i was going to try and help her out...
thats what i thought... i was just asking if she was planning on going down for it because i was going to try and help her out...
24-Mar-2005, 12:36 AM
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Originally posted by Surfofpink
I am out of the hospital, yes. but still unable to walk more than 5 feet really without excruciating pain. The funeral has already passed but thank you for the guesture of generosity. If anyone needs plane tickets to California you can have mine... I'm not going anymore. I was going to go down just to go to his house and lay on his bed and cry but I don't think thats very appropriate. His parents invited me to stay but I really don't know them well enough. They said I was the girl he loved so I am welcome in their house anytime. Nice people... too bad I had to get to know them the best in under these circumstances.
I am out of the hospital, yes. but still unable to walk more than 5 feet really without excruciating pain. The funeral has already passed but thank you for the guesture of generosity. If anyone needs plane tickets to California you can have mine... I'm not going anymore. I was going to go down just to go to his house and lay on his bed and cry but I don't think thats very appropriate. His parents invited me to stay but I really don't know them well enough. They said I was the girl he loved so I am welcome in their house anytime. Nice people... too bad I had to get to know them the best in under these circumstances.
24-Mar-2005, 01:33 AM
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Originally posted by elistian
i cant imagine what your going threw but just give it sometime then decide if you still want to go down one last time... when are the tickets for?? if you end up still not wanting to go after you give it sometime then i will most likly buy your tickets off you so you dont loose to much money... when are they for?? and once again i cant imagine what your going threw... being in pain physically and mentally... msg me on msn if you need to talk...
i cant imagine what your going threw but just give it sometime then decide if you still want to go down one last time... when are the tickets for?? if you end up still not wanting to go after you give it sometime then i will most likly buy your tickets off you so you dont loose to much money... when are they for?? and once again i cant imagine what your going threw... being in pain physically and mentally... msg me on msn if you need to talk...
24-Mar-2005, 01:39 AM
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Originally posted by Surfofpink
Thanks for the support. It's a one way ticket to Fresno California for June 14th. I don't really want money for it... I just want it gone
Thanks for the support. It's a one way ticket to Fresno California for June 14th. I don't really want money for it... I just want it gone
....lolin case you really did want to give away that ticket though i would also be interested....my girlfriend is actually going to be in cali the week of june 12-june 18th..and either way i was planning on buying a ticket and going down to surprise her....so incase you wanted to give it away..even sell it, i would be really interested.....
24-Mar-2005, 09:24 AM
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Re: Dwane...
Originally posted by Surfofpink
SO there was this guy Dwane that I was once in love with when he was living here in Canada. Then his dad took over a company in California and they moved down there. I talked to him on February 10th and he told me he had a surprise for me but I wouldn't get it until Feb 12th. I waited and waited and never got anything and hadn't heard from him since.
I got a phonecall from his sister today. Dwane died in a car accident on Feb 11th on his way to the airport with his bags backed and a ticket to Toronto airport. His family had no idea where he was going cause he didn't tell anyone. I told his sister what had happened between him and I and she just cried. She said he talked about me everyday, how I was the girl he always wanted to marry and how he was so angry about moving away from the girl he loved. His family figures he must have been on his way to see me. They found pictures of us in his luggage, all our MSN history on disks, everything I gave him and his journals that he wrote about me in his room and want to know if I want it.
I seriously don't know what to do. I think having his stuff would make things worse. She said to let her know by the end of the week cause they are cleaning out his room. Should I take it and bear with the pain in spite of a collection of memories or just say for them to keep it cause I can't handle it?
SO there was this guy Dwane that I was once in love with when he was living here in Canada. Then his dad took over a company in California and they moved down there. I talked to him on February 10th and he told me he had a surprise for me but I wouldn't get it until Feb 12th. I waited and waited and never got anything and hadn't heard from him since.
I got a phonecall from his sister today. Dwane died in a car accident on Feb 11th on his way to the airport with his bags backed and a ticket to Toronto airport. His family had no idea where he was going cause he didn't tell anyone. I told his sister what had happened between him and I and she just cried. She said he talked about me everyday, how I was the girl he always wanted to marry and how he was so angry about moving away from the girl he loved. His family figures he must have been on his way to see me. They found pictures of us in his luggage, all our MSN history on disks, everything I gave him and his journals that he wrote about me in his room and want to know if I want it.
I seriously don't know what to do. I think having his stuff would make things worse. She said to let her know by the end of the week cause they are cleaning out his room. Should I take it and bear with the pain in spite of a collection of memories or just say for them to keep it cause I can't handle it?
Get a picture of you and him together, that's it. A picture means a thousand words. If you ever wish to remember him again in the future, or to play back some sweet memories of you and him, just look at the picture and you will know. Memory never goes away, even if you have nothing of him with you, you will still remember him. It is just a book that has been closed for a long time, cover with dust.
But life goes on. Memory will always be memory, but reality is what we are dealing with on everyday basis.
One thing you know, that there was a man, who was once madly in love with you during the life of your time. To me, that is enough. It is all in the heart.
Books can be burnt, disks can be erased, pictures can fade, but memory always stays.
24-Mar-2005, 09:28 AM
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As for the ticket, since I didn't read the whole thread, I missed that part before I posted my above comment.
If I were you, I would keep this ticket. It is not the monetary value which it holds, it is a symbol of love. An unused ticket means the trip has never ended, that there will always be a trip in the future, and you know that trip was meant for Dwane.
Put the picture of you two and that plane ticket together. Store it somewhere you know. That will trigger alot of sweet moments in the future, I am certain of that.
If I were you, I would keep this ticket. It is not the monetary value which it holds, it is a symbol of love. An unused ticket means the trip has never ended, that there will always be a trip in the future, and you know that trip was meant for Dwane.
Put the picture of you two and that plane ticket together. Store it somewhere you know. That will trigger alot of sweet moments in the future, I am certain of that.
24-Mar-2005, 09:52 AM
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Originally posted by Nova_Dust
As for the ticket, since I didn't read the whole thread, I missed that part before I posted my above comment.
If I were you, I would keep this ticket. It is not the monetary value which it holds, it is a symbol of love. An unused ticket means the trip has never ended, that there will always be a trip in the future, and you know that trip was meant for Dwane.
Put the picture of you two and that plane ticket together. Store it somewhere you know. That will trigger alot of sweet moments in the future, I am certain of that.
As for the ticket, since I didn't read the whole thread, I missed that part before I posted my above comment.
If I were you, I would keep this ticket. It is not the monetary value which it holds, it is a symbol of love. An unused ticket means the trip has never ended, that there will always be a trip in the future, and you know that trip was meant for Dwane.
Put the picture of you two and that plane ticket together. Store it somewhere you know. That will trigger alot of sweet moments in the future, I am certain of that.
if u ever need someone to talk to or need something.....let me know and l will try my best to giving a lending hand or ear
24-Mar-2005, 11:00 AM
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Originally posted by Nova_Dust
My advise -
Get a picture of you and him together, that's it. A picture means a thousand words. If you ever wish to remember him again in the future, or to play back some sweet memories of you and him, just look at the picture and you will know. Memory never goes away, even if you have nothing of him with you, you will still remember him. It is just a book that has been closed for a long time, cover with dust.
But life goes on. Memory will always be memory, but reality is what we are dealing with on everyday basis.
One thing you know, that there was a man, who was once madly in love with you during the life of your time. To me, that is enough. It is all in the heart.
Books can be burnt, disks can be erased, pictures can fade, but memory always stays.
My advise -
Get a picture of you and him together, that's it. A picture means a thousand words. If you ever wish to remember him again in the future, or to play back some sweet memories of you and him, just look at the picture and you will know. Memory never goes away, even if you have nothing of him with you, you will still remember him. It is just a book that has been closed for a long time, cover with dust.
But life goes on. Memory will always be memory, but reality is what we are dealing with on everyday basis.
One thing you know, that there was a man, who was once madly in love with you during the life of your time. To me, that is enough. It is all in the heart.
Books can be burnt, disks can be erased, pictures can fade, but memory always stays.
Originally posted by Nova_Dust
As for the ticket, since I didn't read the whole thread, I missed that part before I posted my above comment.
If I were you, I would keep this ticket. It is not the monetary value which it holds, it is a symbol of love. An unused ticket means the trip has never ended, that there will always be a trip in the future, and you know that trip was meant for Dwane.
Put the picture of you two and that plane ticket together. Store it somewhere you know. That will trigger alot of sweet moments in the future, I am certain of that.
As for the ticket, since I didn't read the whole thread, I missed that part before I posted my above comment.
If I were you, I would keep this ticket. It is not the monetary value which it holds, it is a symbol of love. An unused ticket means the trip has never ended, that there will always be a trip in the future, and you know that trip was meant for Dwane.
Put the picture of you two and that plane ticket together. Store it somewhere you know. That will trigger alot of sweet moments in the future, I am certain of that.
wow... i dont think theres 1 thing in there i dis agree with... very good advice.... i agree completly...
24-Mar-2005, 12:45 PM
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Originally posted by Nova_Dust
As for the ticket, since I didn't read the whole thread, I missed that part before I posted my above comment.
If I were you, I would keep this ticket. It is not the monetary value which it holds, it is a symbol of love. An unused ticket means the trip has never ended, that there will always be a trip in the future, and you know that trip was meant for Dwane.
Put the picture of you two and that plane ticket together. Store it somewhere you know. That will trigger alot of sweet moments in the future, I am certain of that.
As for the ticket, since I didn't read the whole thread, I missed that part before I posted my above comment.
If I were you, I would keep this ticket. It is not the monetary value which it holds, it is a symbol of love. An unused ticket means the trip has never ended, that there will always be a trip in the future, and you know that trip was meant for Dwane.
Put the picture of you two and that plane ticket together. Store it somewhere you know. That will trigger alot of sweet moments in the future, I am certain of that.
24-Mar-2005, 02:26 PM
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Originally posted by Surfofpink
Charles.. I knew there was a reason why I said you were my hero in the "whos your hero" thread. You are amazing. You gf is the luckiest girl I will ever know. Amazing advice... and words that can heal a broken heart.
Charles.. I knew there was a reason why I said you were my hero in the "whos your hero" thread. You are amazing. You gf is the luckiest girl I will ever know. Amazing advice... and words that can heal a broken heart.
Think the good moments of you two. That will always be a happy chapter in your life, and I am sure it was the same for Dwane.
24-Mar-2005, 04:39 PM
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Wow, I'm really sorry to hear this. I don't know you at all or anything, but I can't imagine what you must be going through right now. Looks like you have a lot of good support on these boards, though... so hopefully that will help a bit.
And if you haven't already made your decision, I definitely recommend you take some of his things his family are offering up... it might really hurt to even look at them anytime soon, but one day, way off... you'll want those mementos.
Hope you're doing okay.
And if you haven't already made your decision, I definitely recommend you take some of his things his family are offering up... it might really hurt to even look at them anytime soon, but one day, way off... you'll want those mementos.
Hope you're doing okay.
