Ex Bf's Birthday
25-Feb-2005, 01:38 PM
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Ex Bf's Birthday
So its my ex boyfriends birthday today. We dated for 4 years, were engaged and then broke up for common reasons. We are still really good friends and have common friends. So I'm wondering what I should get him.. if anything at all. I was thinking something casual like buy him a lap dance and a beer when we all meet up tonight at the rippers? Is that so bad? or should I just stay away in general?
25-Feb-2005, 01:46 PM
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You had a very serious relationship and are still firends, so you should make sure to aknowledge his birthday in one way or another. But don't go out of your way. Do what you would expect him to do on your birthday.
25-Feb-2005, 01:47 PM
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hmmmmm...i'm in the same boat as u. wuz supposed to marry my ex...but things changed...we're still really good friends and totally respect one another, but i wouldnt buy anything for his bday...i mean...if u didnt have a current bf, that's one thing, but u do. i guess, do wut feels right...and for me...getting the gift wouldnt feel right. but ure not me and i'm not u.
25-Feb-2005, 01:57 PM
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Originally posted by Shazza
but i wouldnt buy anything for his bday..
but i wouldnt buy anything for his bday..
Originally posted by GoldBadge
Do what you would expect him to do on your birthday.
Do what you would expect him to do on your birthday.
25-Feb-2005, 02:08 PM
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No gifts, no nothing. This would be the first birthday after the break up, I think no gifts. If you are able to remain good friends for a long long time, then maybe start buying something after 3 or 4 years.
Buying lap dance, to me, is almost insulting. He would rather see you dance naked than some other ho. It is not like he is 17 and dieing to check out some ******* and ***. A drink is good enough.
Buying lap dance, to me, is almost insulting. He would rather see you dance naked than some other ho. It is not like he is 17 and dieing to check out some ******* and ***. A drink is good enough.
25-Feb-2005, 02:18 PM
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l was in a similar situation....but the out come was a child we broke up....but stay good friends....long story short she moved
to NY with our kid....l still see him, but l wish the out come would have been deferently
as for what Nova said
l think he makes a good point
to NY with our kid....l still see him, but l wish the out come would have been deferently
as for what Nova said
Originally posted by Nova_Dust
No gifts, no nothing. This would be the first birthday after the break up, I think no gifts. If you are able to remain good friends for a long long time, then maybe start buying something after 3 or 4 years.
Buying lap dance, to me, is almost insulting. He would rather see you dance naked than some other ho. It is not like he is 17 and dieing to check out some ******* and ***. A drink is good enough.
No gifts, no nothing. This would be the first birthday after the break up, I think no gifts. If you are able to remain good friends for a long long time, then maybe start buying something after 3 or 4 years.
Buying lap dance, to me, is almost insulting. He would rather see you dance naked than some other ho. It is not like he is 17 and dieing to check out some ******* and ***. A drink is good enough.
25-Feb-2005, 02:27 PM
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Originally posted by Nova_Dust
No gifts, no nothing. This would be the first birthday after the break up, I think no gifts. If you are able to remain good friends for a long long time, then maybe start buying something after 3 or 4 years.
Buying lap dance, to me, is almost insulting. He would rather see you dance naked than some other ho. It is not like he is 17 and dieing to check out some ******* and ***. A drink is good enough.
No gifts, no nothing. This would be the first birthday after the break up, I think no gifts. If you are able to remain good friends for a long long time, then maybe start buying something after 3 or 4 years.
Buying lap dance, to me, is almost insulting. He would rather see you dance naked than some other ho. It is not like he is 17 and dieing to check out some ******* and ***. A drink is good enough.
And move on to better things.....
25-Feb-2005, 02:38 PM
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Originally posted by bbarbulo
drink. the end.
ppl shouldn't get married before 25 neways. not mature enuf in 95% of cases
drink. the end.
ppl shouldn't get married before 25 neways. not mature enuf in 95% of cases
25-Feb-2005, 02:49 PM
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I say at the maximum a beer, I'd even say nothing at all...ah the good old bday's and former interests coming out and cheating on their current bf's with you randomly...
but seriously when will people ever realise that you can not be friends after...and if you some how can without any weirdness then there was zero connection in the first place. Jsut move on and next them, but it is hard with mutual friends.
but seriously when will people ever realise that you can not be friends after...and if you some how can without any weirdness then there was zero connection in the first place. Jsut move on and next them, but it is hard with mutual friends.
25-Feb-2005, 02:53 PM
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Originally posted by spracingsports
my sis and her husband got married at 18..... now they are both 26 and they are still happily married...
my sis and her husband got married at 18..... now they are both 26 and they are still happily married...
25-Feb-2005, 03:03 PM
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Originally posted by dingus88
but seriously when will people ever realise that you can not be friends after...and if you some how can without any weirdness then there was zero connection in the first place. Jsut move on and next them, but it is hard with mutual friends.
but seriously when will people ever realise that you can not be friends after...and if you some how can without any weirdness then there was zero connection in the first place. Jsut move on and next them, but it is hard with mutual friends.
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25-Feb-2005, 03:40 PM
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HAHAHAHA...gino...what a character. . .
i'd say get him something if he'd get u something for sure and u know it. . .
heck if u still like him a bit, buy him something. . . w/e....just don't get all friggin girlie on his ***.
if he is the type of guy to just be like w/e. . .**** that bitch
then **** him. . .who cares. . .
i'd say get him something if he'd get u something for sure and u know it. . .
heck if u still like him a bit, buy him something. . . w/e....just don't get all friggin girlie on his ***.
if he is the type of guy to just be like w/e. . .**** that bitch
then **** him. . .who cares. . .
