imported_~ILLEST CIV~

well....as some of u might gather from a lot of Miss Perfects and My Posts.....things have been rocky with us, for the past month or so, things have been dying down......and what have u....

side note a lot of ppl seem to be having problems in this month of April......sucks ****!.......april sucks!

anyway, we are faced with quite the problem...she comes home this Easter weekend and we have continplated breaking up with each other........which it hurts both of us and we don't wanna really do it.........but feel it'z getting old or just....not new...LOL i dunno....how to put it
We wanna do things together and with the circumstance we are faced with.....it'z hard.........and honestly.......i'm just pissed at the whole thing.....so might as well let it out.........cause i dunno what to do........we almost just broke up.......like 5mins ago and we have given it this weekend comming up to see if it can work.........we want it to work.......but i dunno........the distance is slowly starting to kill me personally a lot..............

what to do.....what to do.......

imported_JookSingKid

what do you want to have happen?

how does it serve you to stay together?

how does it serve you to break up?

imported_Shazza

BAH...u guys r still very young. don't make things so complicated.

Miss Perfect

i realize you guys may think we're young..but you know what..when you have love..you have it..no matter how old we are
and shazza..if you don't have love now..i wish you nothing but happiness..cuz i know what it's like to have someone look at me with pure love in their eyes, i know what it's like to know the future in one glance...and finally..im beginning to know what it's like to lose it..i wish you love..the pure love that i felt at one point..
and it may seem like a childish fantasy , but something brought us together in an unusual way, and something has kept us together through more than anyone should go through

it's a shame we gotta go through this..but the distance kills..
hopefully we'll remember what we have and kick our selves in the *** for ****ing up so bad..but until then..i have a beautiful person as a boyfriend and i will always cherish our memories..
right now..plz just give advice..we want this to work regardless of our age or our situation
love is love..id like to keep mine.

imported_~ILLEST CIV~

Young we might be, but relationships start young.....and mature into something great......

a lot of ppl meet the one they want at the age of 19 some the age of 17........

JookSingKid you always raise good questions....

that make me think.......

if we stayed together....we have the advantage of what we had before the problems.....a person that can understand us

if we broke up.....the stress of the relationship and the feeling of wanting to do something with a loved one but not having the chance would be gone.


and i dunno what i want......

Nova_Dust

Thing will work out if you want it to work out. Of course, it takes two to make it happen. I tried hard with one of my ex who lived in Boston but it turned out she cheated on me so what can I say. I tried, and I failed.

imported_Shazza

i didnt mean to say that u guys arent in love...i'm sure u r. all i meant is that u should take it easy. go with the flow. i mean...if u guys really r in love then it'll work out and u juss have to have faith in that.

me = madly in love...but u can never let the bf know jk. i'm certain he knows it. in fact, we'll prolly get married within the next 2 yrs instead of the 3 we had thought. yay! we can't wait.

imported_ih8hndles

How old are you guys and what is the distance? I'm new, lol

imported_Shazza

they're like 19 or sumpin...and one lives in brampton and the other in new york for skool.

Miss Perfect

congratulations shazza..lol
ya i let him know...oh well....he knows i care about him..
hate to be captain obvious..but we stayed together even though im in NY..how could he not know..lol but i let him know in other ways..

imported_Shazza

haha...save the congratulations...we're not engaged yet...but thanks. we juss know we're gonna get married. its juss a matter of time and money.

Nova_Dust

Love will blind you. A good long lasting relationship is built on love + reality and a clear state of mind. If you are lacking the latter two, I don't suggest anyone rush into marriage that quickly.

Love don't die, it gets covered up by endless life trouble and bills, work stress, friendship trouble, car issues, world issues, home security and what not. That's the reality. And with a good clear state of mind, you will know how to "move" those obstacles aside and recover the love which will rejuvenate you and once again give you the energy to battle against the reality.

DJTre

Think about it. If you guys can last and make it through a long-distance relationship while your young, imagine how strong you guys will be in the future! You are learning some of the key components of a relationship (trust, balance, ect..) now and going through rough times, but that just means you won't have to worry about it later on in life.

When my g/f and I started going out, we were both very young...and it was our first time loving someone else (She was 15 I was 16). We had no idea about trust, jealousy, commitment or balance so there were lots of arguments and heartaches. Now I am 19, and she is 18...and we know eachother 100%, trust eachother 100%, are 100% committed and are 100% sure we are going to spend the rest of our life together.
We learned a lot of the hard things while we were young, and pulled through together...and it payed off because now we have the rest of our lives to enjoy and be happy.

If you guys really loved eachother, you wouldn't let this distance seperate you. Like Miss P said, you don't want to go through the rest of your life knowing you had the right person...and let them go because of such a small barrier.

bbarbulo

iTrader: (2)

boring!! j/k

punkindrublic

if you guys make it work through the bad times it'll eventually be awesome...

maybe you two just need some good make up sex??

Bliss

Hey... let me tell you one thing... me and my bf had gone a WHOLE LOT and we broke up etc... lots of twists and turns like u wouldnt believe,,, but u know what? we pulled through it together and i believe it brought us that much more closer... its weird... its like u gotta go through these things so it teaches you appreciation of eachother...

trust me... even if you guys decided to break up for a month... that doesnt mean u guys wont be back together... cuz u'll miss eachother...

remember... you know know what u have till its gone... SO TRUE!


good luck girl.... its ard sometimes but its always for the best... things happen for a reason.

Buff 'n Stuff

i thought a long distance relationship was seeing how many years you can stay together.

distance in miles/kilometers shouldn't make any difference if you love each other THAT much!

you both say you don't want to break up... then why would you even be considering it? only thing i can think of is there's someone else in the picture.

if you two are willing to break up only because of the distance situation, then you don't love each other as much as you say you do. you're only thinking of your sexual needs imo. what other reason is there?

imported_JookSingKid

I suspect that the both of you love each other very much and do want to make it work.

I also suspect that the two of you feel overwhelmed for the amount of love that you feel for each other.

I suspect a lot of your problems are caused by WANTS and EXPECTATIONS

Learn not to WANT so much and learn not to EXPECT so much and just enjoy what you have.

Be patient, rome wasn't built in a day.

You have plenty of time, love is not a race.

imported_gatherer

I think Shazza has a point... don't complicate things.... I don't wanna read it all I'm lazy... life can be simple and easy if you let it be that way .....and you can still have love ....

Simple is the way to go .... Distance will kill any relationship I've been there and done that .... what you have to do is relax.... if you relax and take it as it comes you'll be better off and most likely be able to survive the time your both apart ... relaxcing is the key trust and relaxing....

imported_gatherer

wise words from a wise man ..... those say it all