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03-Jan-2007, 03:08 PM
#61
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hahha I totally understand the last part dont worry about that, I wouldnt expect that either of my bridal parties, that's what the restaraunt staff is for! lol haha 
thats why were paying them the big bucks... but I do expect them to help the day of though, thats part of their role...but not cleaning obviously
thats why were paying them the big bucks... but I do expect them to help the day of though, thats part of their role...but not cleaning obviously
03-Jan-2007, 03:12 PM
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Helping is why you are in the bridal party! He/She trusts you. For my brothers upcoming stag, myself and the rest of the guys have been already rounding up ALOT of presents. From golf bags to golf ***** to drills to knives to microwaves....it has started to pile up already.
I love weddings though. It makes me all giddy inside. Mandie, i'm going to crash yours dressed up as Borat
I love weddings though. It makes me all giddy inside. Mandie, i'm going to crash yours dressed up as Borat
03-Jan-2007, 03:36 PM
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I have been with my gf for 6 years and our personality have really meshed together to understand the needs of each other, how to accommodate and how to "chill" during the storm of an argument.
There are still a few more things to learn, but we have came a long way and to gladly accept the fact that we will be married this year.
The stats was probably the same 30 years ago, or even longer than that. But we know less because the society was less open then. The idea of divorce was forbidden and women was taught to kept silent.
It all comes down to acceptance and accommodation of one another. Married life isn't about you anymore, it is the fusion of two people and the families that tag along with it. I see that as a bonus. I don't know why people hate their in-laws so much because one day, they themselves will be someone else's in-laws.
There are still a few more things to learn, but we have came a long way and to gladly accept the fact that we will be married this year.
The stats was probably the same 30 years ago, or even longer than that. But we know less because the society was less open then. The idea of divorce was forbidden and women was taught to kept silent.
It all comes down to acceptance and accommodation of one another. Married life isn't about you anymore, it is the fusion of two people and the families that tag along with it. I see that as a bonus. I don't know why people hate their in-laws so much because one day, they themselves will be someone else's in-laws.
03-Jan-2007, 03:37 PM
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Originally posted by Cynikal.Mindset
its all about the cash grab...but dont invite me if you expect cash muahahahaha
its all about the cash grab...but dont invite me if you expect cash muahahahaha
can anybody educate me on this local one?
03-Jan-2007, 03:59 PM
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Originally posted by Shazza
at least $100 a person. u basically cover the cost of your meal and then some. i give more if i'm closer to the person.
at least $100 a person. u basically cover the cost of your meal and then some. i give more if i'm closer to the person.
03-Jan-2007, 04:02 PM
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Wedding cash, $20 is way too little. But the couple should not be expecting to "break even" or even thinking of making money on it. You should be saving enough and enjoy the big day, not worry about how much you lose or how much you gain back.
I have saved enough to throw a free wedding party for all the guests. If we get money, it is a bonus, if not, no big deal.
Open bar, of course.
I have saved enough to throw a free wedding party for all the guests. If we get money, it is a bonus, if not, no big deal.
Open bar, of course.
03-Jan-2007, 04:03 PM
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Originally posted by szuberi
im sorry but im so alien to this 'paid invitation' thing when it comes to weddings locally. in the south asian community, we do give gifts at weddings that may be in cash..ranging from $20 to $100 or more depending upon how close you are....
can anybody educate me on this local one?
im sorry but im so alien to this 'paid invitation' thing when it comes to weddings locally. in the south asian community, we do give gifts at weddings that may be in cash..ranging from $20 to $100 or more depending upon how close you are....
can anybody educate me on this local one?
03-Jan-2007, 04:11 PM
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$20 as a present at a wedding? I'd be embarrased to give that...
The way I look at it, roughly $200 a person i'd give. So as a couple....$400-$500.
BUT
If its a cash wedding, I still bring the EXACT same amount but give the gift AFTER i'm done and open the envelope during the wedding and use my gift money as my booze money. Either way, its going towards the wedding.
The way I look at it, roughly $200 a person i'd give. So as a couple....$400-$500.
BUT
If its a cash wedding, I still bring the EXACT same amount but give the gift AFTER i'm done and open the envelope during the wedding and use my gift money as my booze money. Either way, its going towards the wedding.
03-Jan-2007, 04:16 PM
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Originally posted by Nova_Dust
Wedding cash, $20 is way too little. But the couple should not be expecting to "break even" or even thinking of making money on it. You should be saving enough and enjoy the big day, not worry about how much you lose or how much you gain back.
I have saved enough to throw a free wedding party for all the guests. If we get money, it is a bonus, if not, no big deal.
Open bar, of course.
Wedding cash, $20 is way too little. But the couple should not be expecting to "break even" or even thinking of making money on it. You should be saving enough and enjoy the big day, not worry about how much you lose or how much you gain back.
I have saved enough to throw a free wedding party for all the guests. If we get money, it is a bonus, if not, no big deal.
Open bar, of course.
at my wedding, there were over 400 people (i know you guys will laugh and taunt at this) but trust me...it is true. i or my wife didnt know a 1/3rd of them cuz some were friends of my brothers/sisters, or my dad or my mom or what not...lol
i know in canada its expensive....but the idea of asking your own wedding guests to pay money is a far one for me (i dont mean to say at all that people who do...do something wrong)
03-Jan-2007, 04:20 PM
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Originally posted by Gallagher
$20 as a present at a wedding? I'd be embarrased to give that...
The way I look at it, roughly $200 a person i'd give. So as a couple....$400-$500.
BUT
If its a cash wedding, I still bring the EXACT same amount but give the gift AFTER i'm done and open the envelope during the wedding and use my gift money as my booze money. Either way, its going towards the wedding.
$20 as a present at a wedding? I'd be embarrased to give that...
The way I look at it, roughly $200 a person i'd give. So as a couple....$400-$500.
BUT
If its a cash wedding, I still bring the EXACT same amount but give the gift AFTER i'm done and open the envelope during the wedding and use my gift money as my booze money. Either way, its going towards the wedding.
mainly...people who gave $20 were the ones whom they didnt know at all...i mean...nada....you will ask why they were invited then...cuz the guests were sons/daughter of the bride or the groom's mom or dad's old relative.....complex family connections..lol
for the community....its more like a pressure...oh you have to invite them cuz their dad or mom were your friends for such a long time...
but i mainly agreee....$20 is hella low any way u look at it
03-Jan-2007, 04:24 PM
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Originally posted by szuberi
steve...recently a friend got married and we were at a dinner with the new couple and he was teling me about the money they got and all...
mainly...people who gave $20 were the ones whom they didnt know at all...i mean...nada....you will ask why they were invited then...cuz the guests were sons/daughter of the bride or the groom's mom or dad's old relative.....complex family connections..lol
for the community....its more like a pressure...oh you have to invite them cuz their dad or mom were your friends for such a long time...
but i mainly agreee....$20 is hella low any way u look at it
steve...recently a friend got married and we were at a dinner with the new couple and he was teling me about the money they got and all...
mainly...people who gave $20 were the ones whom they didnt know at all...i mean...nada....you will ask why they were invited then...cuz the guests were sons/daughter of the bride or the groom's mom or dad's old relative.....complex family connections..lol
for the community....its more like a pressure...oh you have to invite them cuz their dad or mom were your friends for such a long time...
but i mainly agreee....$20 is hella low any way u look at it
