Unwritten rules between friends
10-Nov-2008, 01:54 PM
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Unwritten rules between friends
Just curious to see what everyone on this board might think regarding this particular situation.
When is it ever okay (if it can be okay at all) for a friend to have a one night stand with his friend's ex, or vice versa, for a person to have a one night with their exes friend.
When is it ever okay (if it can be okay at all) for a friend to have a one night stand with his friend's ex, or vice versa, for a person to have a one night with their exes friend.
10-Nov-2008, 02:05 PM
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that being said, I had thought of doing this before but decided it is very wrong thing to do. Think about it this way, would you like your friend to do it to you? if not then you shouldn't do it to your friend. plus girls do it on purpose most of the time to **** off their ex, they're not really into you.
10-Nov-2008, 02:07 PM
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I totally agree, except that for a relationship I would not "at least" run it by my friend. I will ALWAYS run it by my friend before anything is done.
10-Nov-2008, 02:09 PM
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10-Nov-2008, 02:19 PM
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Ok......
My best friends ex's:
1) He went out with her for 2 years or so (back in highschool), he broke up with her, about 8months later, we all went to MTL, she ended up doing stuff with me, but then I stopped it cuz it felt wrong.
2) He went out with her for like 6mths, after he broke up with her, she didn't stop texting me and somehow she'd be at the same place all the time where I was, I finally called her out on it when she somehow was at the casino the same time as me, never heard from her again.
3) He went out with her for about 1.5yrs, moved in (his parents house and they had there own place before that), she keeps telling me that she is having dreams about wild crazy sex with me. One repititive dream and another new one where she came to my cottage and all we did was ****.
Again, I have yet to go the full 9 yards with an friends ex, and don't plan to, but alcohol does weird things, especially gin.
All this being said, this is only best friends, but there have been many times where i've done/fooled around with a buddies ex just due to spite cuz he pissed me off.
My best friends ex's:
1) He went out with her for 2 years or so (back in highschool), he broke up with her, about 8months later, we all went to MTL, she ended up doing stuff with me, but then I stopped it cuz it felt wrong.
2) He went out with her for like 6mths, after he broke up with her, she didn't stop texting me and somehow she'd be at the same place all the time where I was, I finally called her out on it when she somehow was at the casino the same time as me, never heard from her again.
3) He went out with her for about 1.5yrs, moved in (his parents house and they had there own place before that), she keeps telling me that she is having dreams about wild crazy sex with me. One repititive dream and another new one where she came to my cottage and all we did was ****.
Again, I have yet to go the full 9 yards with an friends ex, and don't plan to, but alcohol does weird things, especially gin.
All this being said, this is only best friends, but there have been many times where i've done/fooled around with a buddies ex just due to spite cuz he pissed me off.
10-Nov-2008, 02:23 PM
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ehhhhhh
it depends.. if the couple was together when they were 16 years old for 3 months and it's been 10 years, and neither of them see eachother, i don't see anything wrong with it.
if the couple was together for a long time and they've been broken up for 4 hours, it's a different story.
it also depends on how close a friend the two people are.
it depends.. if the couple was together when they were 16 years old for 3 months and it's been 10 years, and neither of them see eachother, i don't see anything wrong with it.
if the couple was together for a long time and they've been broken up for 4 hours, it's a different story.
it also depends on how close a friend the two people are.
10-Nov-2008, 02:28 PM
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I've had that happen to me too. It's not worth even talking to them. As someone said above, the girl does it to spite you and doesn't even really like the guy. I knew this all along, and told the guy that hooked up with my ex that exact statement. The best thing to do is get them psychologically. If you and your former friend ever get into an argument about it, just tell him that every time he kisses her he'll be tasting your ****. That'll get him good!
10-Nov-2008, 02:34 PM
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If you think your friend is garbage overall, then cut him off, otherwise, talk to him. It's up to you man.
There are different levels of friendship.
1. close friends
2. party friends
3. not friends, but they're around often.
4. friends of friends that you don't really like.
maybe he's just a level 2
10-Nov-2008, 02:36 PM
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ehhhhhh
it depends.. if the couple was together when they were 16 years old for 3 months and it's been 10 years, and neither of them see eachother, i don't see anything wrong with it.
if the couple was together for a long time and they've been broken up for 4 hours, it's a different story.
it also depends on how close a friend the two people are.
it depends.. if the couple was together when they were 16 years old for 3 months and it's been 10 years, and neither of them see eachother, i don't see anything wrong with it.
if the couple was together for a long time and they've been broken up for 4 hours, it's a different story.
it also depends on how close a friend the two people are.
Long story short, it happened to me and it sucks big time.
you shouldn't need a single incident to know if someone's heart is good or not. You might be using this as an excuse to cut this person off, obviously you feel betrayed.
If you think your friend is garbage overall, then cut him off, otherwise, talk to him. It's up to you man.
There are different levels of friendship.
1. close friends
2. party friends
3. not friends, but they're around often.
4. friends of friends that you don't really like.
maybe he's just a level 2
If you think your friend is garbage overall, then cut him off, otherwise, talk to him. It's up to you man.
There are different levels of friendship.
1. close friends
2. party friends
3. not friends, but they're around often.
4. friends of friends that you don't really like.
maybe he's just a level 2
I did talk to him, I told him if he wanted to date her all he had to do was talk to me, but he said he didn't it was for sex only.
Than he proceeded to offer me advice on the problems I was having with my ex and what I should do and think about etc. He gave solid advice, no doubt, but it's kinda hard to listen to someone after they just told you they slept with your ex behind your back.
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