what is up with guys these days?
18-Apr-2005, 09:14 AM
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Originally posted by kIeRaN
personnaly, i dont think id ever cheat on a girl, just because if u feel they are the rite person for you and you really loive them, u wouldnt want anyone else. And u wouldntw anna jeopardize what u already have. Meh, every guy is different i suppose
personnaly, i dont think id ever cheat on a girl, just because if u feel they are the rite person for you and you really loive them, u wouldnt want anyone else. And u wouldntw anna jeopardize what u already have. Meh, every guy is different i suppose
18-Apr-2005, 10:31 AM
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Originally posted by ERTW
you're attracting the wrong type of guy, there are plenty of decent guys out there
you're attracting the wrong type of guy, there are plenty of decent guys out there
Those who generalise are often being generalised themselves. Next thing you know, you a ***** because I am a scum bag according to some women.
18-Apr-2005, 11:45 AM
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Originally posted by Nova_Dust
I didn't know how you and your girlfriend dressed like but the way you dress, the way you act will attract certain type of crowds.
I didn't know how you and your girlfriend dressed like but the way you dress, the way you act will attract certain type of crowds.
18-Apr-2005, 12:00 PM
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lol i cant believe this was actually posted... sorry kerr lol... hahahahaha.
as numerous people already stated: girls are a much of cheaters as guys are.
secondly, bars are not really the place to generalize to the entire population. ive been with my gf for 1yr 10months, and i even used to go to bars and stuff when we first started dating and ive never cheated on her - nor would i (but then again, my gf is ****** hot)... (also not saying its right to cheat on ugly or fat girls..... ).... (also not saying fat girls are ugly....) (i think ill just stop now)
point being: if ur looking for a relationship, try somewhere other than a bar. i mean, girls as much as guys go there just looking for some a$$... what can u do tho right?
as numerous people already stated: girls are a much of cheaters as guys are.
secondly, bars are not really the place to generalize to the entire population. ive been with my gf for 1yr 10months, and i even used to go to bars and stuff when we first started dating and ive never cheated on her - nor would i (but then again, my gf is ****** hot)... (also not saying its right to cheat on ugly or fat girls..... ).... (also not saying fat girls are ugly....) (i think ill just stop now)
point being: if ur looking for a relationship, try somewhere other than a bar. i mean, girls as much as guys go there just looking for some a$$... what can u do tho right?
18-Apr-2005, 12:17 PM
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I think at some point most guys want to remain fathful all the time. Then there coems a point where their girl cheats on them/lies to them, or break their heart or something and they lose all faith in girls and then just do whatever they want.
That was the same thing with a few of my buddies.
So...I guess you can say if the girls weren't such bitches in the first place then these things wouldn't have happened.
That was the same thing with a few of my buddies.
So...I guess you can say if the girls weren't such bitches in the first place then these things wouldn't have happened.
18-Apr-2005, 12:45 PM
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its not cheating if they know about it-
my girl knows that when i go to a club or a bar i hit on and talk to girls
I also know that when she goes out she gets hit on and she talks to other guys.
there is nothing wrong with socializing-
and if you are talking about sex- the well- isnt there a tread here called threesome- - orgies are always fun- experiment and have open relationships -
my girl knows that when i go to a club or a bar i hit on and talk to girls
I also know that when she goes out she gets hit on and she talks to other guys.
there is nothing wrong with socializing-
and if you are talking about sex- the well- isnt there a tread here called threesome- - orgies are always fun- experiment and have open relationships -
18-Apr-2005, 12:55 PM
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Cheating... this is a topic I know a little about... I have cheated, and I've been cheated on. So gather round ladies and gents and I will grace you with my wisdom.
First off... both men and women cheat. And for exactly the same reasons. Don't say that you will NEVER cheat, because chances are you will. I don't remember the exact stats but the chances are high. More people cheat than people that don't.
Ok, the reason MOST people cheat is not because they don't love their significant other but because they are unhappy with their life as it is. Dating somebody new is an ego boost. Now it is probably the most self distructive thing you can do and wrecks your life as it is, but for a while it is a major boost to your ego and self confidence. Most people lack the will power to turn down instant gradification to think about long term effects. Especially when they are depressed. Depression is a very powerful thing and will make you do things you would normally consider unthinkable (like suicide).
Now, since you met these guys at the bar, the most likely reason they were hitting on you was either -
A) a bet. Their buddies bet that they didn't have the stones to get your number. They weren't actually thinking of cheating, but wanted to prove simplely that they *could*. I've done that many times! As far as I'm concerned, as long as I don't actually kiss the girl, don't lie and don't call her after I get the number, I haven't cheated.
B) you are objects. Many guys just have no interest in being in a relationship before the age of 25. They have girlfriends true, but they are only there to ensure regular sex and dates for things like weddings and stuff. There is no real feelings. I have known a few guys that get caught cheating, dumped, and laugh because they have about 5 other girls in a back up mode. It in now way effects their life and if anything makes their life easier because they don't have to deal with the drama of actually having to dump the girl when they have out lived their usefulness.
Now, when I cheated, I was in a severe state of depression and my GF lived 3 hours away from me. I never intended to cheat and actually told the girl I was talking to that I had a GF. She however felt very needed, and I needed somebody to talk to and things "happened". It's something I regret but looking back, I don't see how it could have happened differently. In life things just happen. I'm not saying you shouldn't aim to do the right thing, but if you slip up, don't beat yourself up. Things happen.
Back to the situation at hand. Playboys are back in style. Music glorifies "players" these days. It's just cool. These guys were likely just trying to be cool and up their "notch count".
And make no mistake, women are just as bad. I have one close female friend that has a Long Distance boyfriend whom she claims to completely love, plus two guy friends that are her late night booty calls. None of the 3 guys know about each other.
It's a warped world out there...
First off... both men and women cheat. And for exactly the same reasons. Don't say that you will NEVER cheat, because chances are you will. I don't remember the exact stats but the chances are high. More people cheat than people that don't.
Ok, the reason MOST people cheat is not because they don't love their significant other but because they are unhappy with their life as it is. Dating somebody new is an ego boost. Now it is probably the most self distructive thing you can do and wrecks your life as it is, but for a while it is a major boost to your ego and self confidence. Most people lack the will power to turn down instant gradification to think about long term effects. Especially when they are depressed. Depression is a very powerful thing and will make you do things you would normally consider unthinkable (like suicide).
Now, since you met these guys at the bar, the most likely reason they were hitting on you was either -
A) a bet. Their buddies bet that they didn't have the stones to get your number. They weren't actually thinking of cheating, but wanted to prove simplely that they *could*. I've done that many times! As far as I'm concerned, as long as I don't actually kiss the girl, don't lie and don't call her after I get the number, I haven't cheated.
B) you are objects. Many guys just have no interest in being in a relationship before the age of 25. They have girlfriends true, but they are only there to ensure regular sex and dates for things like weddings and stuff. There is no real feelings. I have known a few guys that get caught cheating, dumped, and laugh because they have about 5 other girls in a back up mode. It in now way effects their life and if anything makes their life easier because they don't have to deal with the drama of actually having to dump the girl when they have out lived their usefulness.
Now, when I cheated, I was in a severe state of depression and my GF lived 3 hours away from me. I never intended to cheat and actually told the girl I was talking to that I had a GF. She however felt very needed, and I needed somebody to talk to and things "happened". It's something I regret but looking back, I don't see how it could have happened differently. In life things just happen. I'm not saying you shouldn't aim to do the right thing, but if you slip up, don't beat yourself up. Things happen.
Back to the situation at hand. Playboys are back in style. Music glorifies "players" these days. It's just cool. These guys were likely just trying to be cool and up their "notch count".
And make no mistake, women are just as bad. I have one close female friend that has a Long Distance boyfriend whom she claims to completely love, plus two guy friends that are her late night booty calls. None of the 3 guys know about each other.
It's a warped world out there...
18-Apr-2005, 03:37 PM
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blah blah blah... when chicks talk to much or expect change.. it's time to move on.
if women didn't want to cuddle so much and if sex could be scheduled I think there would be a lot less cheating going on.
"Okay, Monday 5:30 to 7:00pm, after that, I'm going out." would solve a lot of issues I think.
if women didn't want to cuddle so much and if sex could be scheduled I think there would be a lot less cheating going on.
"Okay, Monday 5:30 to 7:00pm, after that, I'm going out." would solve a lot of issues I think.
18-Apr-2005, 04:25 PM
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I wonder if I can quit sex like how I went cold turkey when I quitted smoking. I mean, jerk off will let me achieve the same result, and it will be way faster, and time saving. My neck won't be sore, my tongue won't be sore, my back won't hurt...
18-Apr-2005, 04:50 PM
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Originally posted by Nova_Dust
I wonder if I can quit sex like how I went cold turkey when I quitted smoking. I mean, jerk off will let me achieve the same result, and it will be way faster, and time saving. My neck won't be sore, my tongue won't be sore, my back won't hurt...
I wonder if I can quit sex like how I went cold turkey when I quitted smoking. I mean, jerk off will let me achieve the same result, and it will be way faster, and time saving. My neck won't be sore, my tongue won't be sore, my back won't hurt...
